Bringing Hope Home Family Spotlight: Gabriel
Gabriel became a part of the Bringing Hope Home Family in the fall of 2024 after he was diagnosed with Stage 2 Hodgkin’s Lymphoma. He is currently undergoing treatment with a Stem Cell Transplant planned for later this summer at Christiana Care Hospital. Gabriel recently completed a Family Spotlight interview and shared his journey in his own words.
“What comes to mind when I am asked to share about my cancer journey is how the treatment makes me feel. I am an open book when it comes to talking about this specifically. I can walk myself into treatment; however, after the chemotherapy starts at times, I couldn’t walk out and needed extra assistance. At times, it’s like borrowing someone else’s reality. I would drive to treatment, but the first day or two after treatment, I was not able to walk. Treatment days can be long, and in between, there are scans and tests to see if the treatment is working. I was sensitive to certain medications, and the emotional toll was challenging. Knowing that I didn’t have to say “yes” to everything helped to build my relationship with my medical team. In my case, I am responding to the treatments, but I have been through a few different treatment options. A Stem Cell Transplant is planned soon.
Since my diagnosis, my priorities have shifted. Before now, I was able to manage my schedule and be sure to cover my bills by working and DJ’ing. Now I have reassessed and need to consider my health first. Weekly treatments and the need for recovery time have made working very difficult. Luckily, I have been able to work out a little to help build my body up for the Stem Cell Transplant.
I have felt supported by my girlfriend and medical care team. It is important to be supported not only in physical health but also in mental health. It has been very challenging to navigate care. My prognosis is good because we caught it early, but I would rather not be doing this from day to day.
The first word that comes to mind when I think about my experience with BHH is HOPE; I am consistently trying to embrace and understand the concept. When my social worker first told me about BHH and getting financial support, I was feeling desperate. When BHH stepped in and helped with my rent, I was so appreciative. They provided help when I most needed it and gave me hope right when I needed it. My social worker continues to advocate for me and assist me with other resources as well.
I am a huge Marvel fan. The character I’ve been embracing throughout this journey is Deadpool; underneath his mask, he is battling cancer. I found an authentic mask maker in Poland and have been wearing my Deadpool mask to most chemo treatments. I feel strong when I wear my mask. I always make sure it is with me. At the end of the day, cancer is scary. It is important to find moments of joy and laughter throughout. I also love music. I used to teach, and my favorite instrument is the piano. I studied music in college and enjoy writing music for films, other recording artists, and myself. I often find myself feeling inspired to write music during chemo. I am a DJ and played at weddings before my diagnosis.
Aside from these interests, I love people, and I love helping. Especially now, I understand people from all different walks of life face challenges like me. I’ve always been an empath.
The first piece of advice I would offer to someone newly diagnosed with cancer is, even if you don’t believe me, it is important to get some type of therapy because treatment can make you feel alone. You are vulnerable during this time and can feel lonely – it’s good to talk to someone about your feelings.
My second piece of advice would be to have a creative or physical outlet – whatever you feel your purpose is, even when you are not able to do much. Even if it’s five minutes a day. If you are a painter, paint one stroke. Take a walk. Find time for yourself and don’t beat yourself up over only being able to give it a small amount of time. You don’t have to over-extend yourself.
My next piece of advice is to take your time. I would often cry because I couldn’t put on my shoes or take a shower without help. Take your time, it’s not forever. Lower your expectations and go with what is scheduled, not with what “may happen”. Go with the flow and practice flexibility.
It can be hard to explore self-advocacy, but it is crucial to speak up for yourself and have someone who can advocate on your behalf. Find a care team you can trust and reach out to other patients fighting a similar battle. Always go with your gut – trust yourself. Remember that you can say no, and don’t have to do anything you don’t want to. Educate yourself; ask for a different doctor, nurse, or social worker until you find the right fit. It is important to be surrounded by those who can provide honesty and care throughout your journey. Each treatment may feel familiar, but every day is not the same. Some days I was able to eat, some days I was not able to use the bathroom. Always listen to your body and yourself.
Right now, I’m focusing on getting fitted for an authentic Spider-Man costume (my favorite superhero) before getting my stem cell transplant. I’ve enjoyed documenting this process and journey on social media, and hope my story inspires others to stay strong through difficult times.”
Through the Light of Hope Family Program, Bringing Hope Home assisted with Gabriel’s rental payment and provided Acme gift cards for grocery support. Thank you, Gabriel, for bravely sharing your story with HOPE Nation!